Normal relationship

Many families are in normal relationship when the elderly are in good health they all seem to be in harmony but  once the elderly require long-term care,many contradictions gradually emerge
Some people think it should be rotated ,some people think a nurse should be hired and some people think that whoever is closer will bear more everyone has their own ideas It really comes down to things It is often difficult to unify A lot of times aline silently takes most of the responsibility
caring for the bedridden elderly  more than just work you can not live without people all day long ,even going out to buy something in a hurry
It has been a long time people get really tired
In fact,there are many contradictions not because unfilial piety,it is because of the unclear distribution responsibilities
If there are many brothers and sisters in the family ,how do you feel about the responsibility of caring for the elderly ?
How should it be divided reasonably?